Single parent families

     Today's family life is very different from the past. A few years ago, father went to work to support his family, mother stayed with her children at home, but today is not as good as the past. Now a day it is not uncommon for only one parent to raise children, and these children are often disadvantaged in several ways.

     

     Single parents cannot show the same feelings as their married counterparts because the love between parents plays an important role in the family. Children learn how to get love from their parents, but their love may be somewhat unpleasant if both parents are not there to teach them how to love, their love may be intangible. Yes, single parents can express their love to their children, but they do not express their love with their spouse. As a result, children from single-parent families are deprived of the learning experience of husband and wife loving each other. So, this can have a big impact on children. The relationship is something everyone needs, especially children.

  Children need a really strong relationship with their parents, but single-parent children are often denied this privilege because they often do not have enough time to spend with each other when separated from their parents. Children who are close to their parents are more likely to respect their parents' authority. The problem with single parents is that usually single parents have no time to help and accompany their children establish close relationships with them. 

     

     Another issue is how children can establish a strong relationship with their non-living parents and often not see them regularly. The simple fact is that children need to have close relationships with both parents at home and to teach them to respect the authority of their parents. It is true that not all children from both families have close relationships with their parents, but this possibility is much greater. Whether mother or father, a single mother or single father, the child needs guidance. They will only be the product of what they learned from young people age, these children are deeply affectionate affection to enhance their compassion. This must be true whether the family structure is implied respect and one of the strong moral values that one day they can pass on to their families.

  

     On the other hand, which is Dual Family. The dual parent family’s financial situation of the two income families is better, the economic pressure may be smaller. Children also enjoy the benefits of not having children worry about the money in their home. More money translates into higher quality day care, early education and private education. Families can get better health care, save more for their children's college education, enjoy more nights as a family and take more frequent holidays, better and longer than they could have been.

      Besides that, Dual families’ life for children will be more better and well. Children have father and mother always at beside children support and assist the children compare to the single families is more comfortable. Dual parent families may help children in this environment grow up in very well and children also no need worried so much. For example, children go school have mother and father fetch back is a thing very blessed. What I can say if now you are dual parent families please appreciate what you have now. For this dual parent families will build up for the family’s member relationship become establish and become strong. 

     Thus, Father and mother also will spread and share their knowledge of life to the children, so that the children will have more knowledge and more understanding about external things. Compare to the single parent families, dual parent family’s children is more advantages on this, because children are learn two person knowledge. The effect of single parenting on children on the experience of the parent is aside from the direct influence of household structure on academic achievement and learning, a single-family home environment may influence a child's behavioral performance in school, which can indirectly affect learning and interest in school. 

     Based on my opinion, when single parents are working full time and therefore have less available time for their children, the situation may lead to either behavioral issues or lower academic achievement. From single-parent families may affect the child's academic development. The pressure of separation between you and your partner and the resulting changes in your life and daily routine can cause problems. You may also find yourself working longer and dedicating less time to helping with homework. For example, children from single-parent homes may be more likely to drop out of school, and they are also more vulnerable to alcohol and drug use, this is also one of the reason will affect children.  

     Single parents can have deep negative consequences on a student's academic performance, as parents play an important role in the academic development of most children. Previous studies have shown that since single parents have to spend their children's schooling, the children of both parents perform better than the children of single parents. (Family Dynamics, 2016)

Should Prostitution be legal?

What is prostitution? Should prostitution be legal? Prostitution can be defined as systematic sexual violence and oppression of women and girls. From the dictionary, we understand that prostitution is "an act or practice of sexual intercourse for money." Strip shows, nude juice bars, massage parlors and saunas, brothels, adult book and video stores, peep shows, live sex shows, sex rings, escort services, mail order brides, streetwalking, and pornography are the system institutionalized in the sex industry. Each of these forms of prostitution offers men unrestricted access to women and girls alike, relying solely on their ability to pay. From the dictionary, we learn that prostitution is "an act or practice of sexual intercourse for money. (ProCon.org, 2017).

Prostitution is a complex issue of intense debates in many countries.  Due to the poverty and unforeseen circumstances, prostitution persists and will continue in spite of the ban and its legal status.  In fact, there are 77 countries that have completely legalized Prostitution practice such as New Zealand, Australia, Austria, Brazil, Canada, Colombia, Denmark, France, Germany, Greece, Indonesia, Netherlands and our neighbour country Singapore (Rohit B, 2017).

There are advantage and disadvantage lead to legalized prostitution. In this report, we would like to discuss about the advantage of legalized prostitution and Why prohibit prostitution should legalize. Firstly, legal prostitution reduces sexual and violence crimes. According to John (Haltiwanger, 2017) stated that a study of San Francisco prostitutes found that 82% were beaten and 68% were raped as prostitutes.  Another study of prostitutes in Colorado Springs found that they were 18 times more likely to be killed than non-prostitutes of the same age and race. The Prostitutes who have suffered violence may not want to call the police because their doing is illegal. The prostitutes do not engage in an inherent harmful act so that prostitution should not be a crime. Although the spread of diseases and other determinants may arise in the practice of prostitution, conviction is a sure way of exacerbating rather than resolving this effect. What makes prostitution an "incurable crime" as no one is harmed as a result of the involvement of adults. Once legalized, sex workers are authorized to approach the police if they are at risk or have problems with clients and pimps (Dave Anderson, 2017).

Another important reason for the legalization of prostitution is because it may be a potential solution to the trafficking of human beings. Prohibitionists claim that prostitution and related activities are not criminalized, including pimping and the maintenance of brothels encourage the growth of human trafficking, and are not supported by recent reports and research. In fact, they are against them. In Germany, when prostitution was legalized, the number of human trafficking cases dropped significantly by 10% between 2001 and 2011. The key benefit of their legalization of sex sales is that they allow for an effective relationship between law enforcement officials and sex workers. Legal officials can use sex workers as an important source of information to uncover trafficking. Contrary to what many people think, the prohibition of prostitution can only provide cover for traffickers, as it gives them the right to use the law to threaten women victims, especially young women. Women and children who are forced into prostitution are afraid to go to the police because they think they will be punished and arrested. If the prostitution legal, women and children victims are more willing to report to law officials drug trafficking, abuse of clients and greedy pimps.

Besides that, legalization would make sex workers healthier. Illegal street prostitutes may face pressure from pimps and John and give up their condoms. However, countries that legalize prostitution may require that sex workers use condoms and be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. To make HIV prevention successful, the conditions must be changed. The background of sexual work has to change in legal, social and economic. Abolish criminal law, obtain visas and work permits, freedom of movement and freedom of association, and occupational safety and health regulations to reduce from above. Prior to this, those who insist on safe conduct of the hero, a strong individual, inseparable from the hero, timid people have to bear the consequences of the risk context (Business Insider, 2017).

Legalized prostitution will give the sex workers employment rights. Everyone, who is legally employed, has minimum rights and entitlements given by law, such as safety rights, minimum wage, health benefits, vacation pay, and protection against unlawful discrimination. And since sex workers don’t work legally, especially in countries that do not consider prostitution as a legitimate work, they don’t get any of these rights.

If prostitution will be legalized, sex workers will be able to get access to the rights and services that they deserve. If a sex worker is raped or abused, she can complain to the police and even file lawsuit. Furthermore, she can get access to basic education and health services, just like anyone else. Everyone deserves to be protected by law no matter of type of work people do, and that includes the sex workers.

Legalized prostitution will benefit a government through taxes. Just like in any other industry, legalization of prostitution could lead to a chain effect that would significantly benefit a country – primarily through tax revenue. Once the sex workers and brothel owners obtained a license, they may participate in the business and enjoy their legal income that is taxable. As we already know, prostitution is a lucrative business. According to reports, each sex worker in Nevada earns as much as $3,000 per week. And let’s not forget the fact that there are others who earn more. If all sex workers are licensed and required to pay taxes in the U.S., just imagine how much tax revenue will the country get by this industry.

Furthermore, a government could also charge an annual fee to the license they provide for sex workers, brothel owners, and clients so they can continuously operate their business legally, which is also an additional income. Of course, when prostitution is properly regulated, people who patronize this industry will feel safer and thus, the demand for it will increase, which can also be an added benefit to the economy. More tourists will then visit the country to pay for sex service, which can significantly increase foreign exchange earnings.

Prostitution is a victimless crime, some women in prostitution, particularly those who are kidnapped and held against their will, are victims, but I believe that for the most part, prostitution is a victimless crime. Just like what other people are saying, some women, who are in the business, chose to offer their service willingly and no one forced them to. Just like gambling and drug use, prostitution is an activity that is participated in by adults voluntarily. “What makes prostitution a ‘victimless crime’ in the sense that no one is necessarily harmed by it is that there are consenting adults involved.” (Sherry F. Colb, 2013).

Another important reason why prostitution should be legalized is because it could be a potential solution to fight human trafficking. While prohibitionists claim that decriminalizing prostitution and related activities – including pimping and maintaining of brothels – encourages the growth of human trafficking, recent reports and studies don’t support them. In fact, they oppose them. In Germany, when they legalized prostitution, cases of human trafficking significantly decreased by 10 percent from 2001 to 2011. But what’s better than this is the fact that only a few numbers of children are involved in sex trades because young ones are not forced to join sex trade there. The average age of sex workers in Germany is 31.

They key benefit of legalizing the buying and selling of sex is it can create an effective relationship between the law enforcement officials and sex workers. If there’s a good relation between them, law officials can use sex workers as key information sources to uncover human trafficking. Contrary to what many people believe, prohibition of prostitution only provide cover to human traffickers because it gives them the power to use the law to threaten women victims, particularly the young ones. Women and children, who are being forced against their will into prostitution, are afraid to go to police because they think that, they too, will be punished and arrested. Legalized prostitution will encourage women and children victims become more willing to come forward and report traffickers, abusive clients, and greedy pimps to the law officials.

Criminalization of prostitution, including other things that surround sex work, is not the real solution. Sex trade is here to stay, and by recognizing it as a legitimate form of work, all involved parties can receive guaranteed benefits. It would effectively lessen the burden on the government in terms of executing anti-prostitution laws and paying additional law enforcement. More importantly, legalization of prostitution would protect the rights of sex workers and give these people a chance to live a normal life they deserve. Legalized prostitution maybe not so worst for the society since we had found so much advantages. For sure, legalized prostitution is a very argumentative topic that everyone had their own opinion and belief, we can’t judge it is right or wrong.

Expectation VS Reality - Marriage

    Marriage is a big deal, but no one knows exactly how to tackle it. Whether you are a guy or a girl, you have always thought about your marriage day your whole life, unless you want to become single. The wonderful dresses, the beautiful venue, bundle of roses, romantic photography and most importantly, marrying to your loved one. Both the men and women think about their wedding, but I guess the entire thing do revolve around the bride. When you were a girl, you started thinking about your wedding day and your groom. You start planning of your dream wedding at six or seven years old, but nothing happens on the big day, because the day becomes only important for the guests there. You were excited to start a new and lovely chapter of your life and you always fantasized about a loving partner and then, on becoming a mother one day. You always have high hopes for your future life after marriage and always tries to make it happen just the way you think. 

     Married life is not like what we see in the Bollywood movies. When you are engaged you imagine about all the stuff you’d with your partner. Married life is not about only rainbows and butterflies, it is about compromise and understanding each other and it is definitely not a bed of roses. Things are, not how they seem to be. So now I going to talk about Expectation vs Reality on an issue of marriage.

(Hew Yong Kang) 

Expectation about marriage life. We expect that our marriage life is going to be exciting and will go on long and exotic vacations. We will stay romantic as long as we can and keep the fire burning. He will brings me flowers on the perfect time, talk sweetly to me, he will brings me to travel around the world. She will cooks me a wonderful dinner, make compliment in me and tolerance to me.

     When expectation meet Reality. As imaginations don’t have any limits, we will always though that we are going to enjoy the rosy days with our spouse our lover until the end of our day. Few years after marriage, they would having conflict and it will shake the things up. U will no more patient in everything. You might busy in work and have no more time to always stick together and loss patient to talk sweetly. Then you will have kids in your life events, the kids will absorb every ounce of energy for a while (Dennis Rainey, 2017).

Expectation of having kids will surely make your marriage better. Generally we will desires to have little human being comes into our life and brings joy to us. Some of us also might thinking being a father or mother will changes a person to be more responsible. 

When expectation meet Reality. When the little human being comes into your life, your marriage is no longer about each other. Both of you should spend more time on carrying and education the little one. You may not able to spend time on personal event, you have start making sacrifices you’ve never done before and take responsibility on it. Child will not guarantee to make your marriage better you shouldn’t expect children to  improve your marriage (Sophie Harris, 2017). 

     Expectation of your spouse love you and also your family. We will treat each other family and love them as our own. We will always be supportive and respective to every members. As I love you and i will also love your family. 

     When expectation meet Reality. According to Iqrak Khadim, (2016) stated that normally your partner will not bother anymore and not really of how your spouse feels now after few years of marriage. However, only your own parents are your parents. You are not supportive or protective as previous do, no matter how your spouse’s siblings are not siblings as your own u cannot feel the same for your parents in law as well as you feel for your own parents. ( Loke Yi Ling)

     Marriage is a blessed and happy thing that will happen in most of people life, we work hard and operate it well to keep our marriage stable even though that is a lot of conflict and differences between expectation and reality, but marriage is work. A work that need to build together within two people.

     It requires skill, a powerful context, embodiment and our rational thinking mind. It requires what we call “relational awareness and literacy.” A real relationship includes all of us, all shades, all colors, the dark, and the light. It’s happy sometimes and it’s sad sometimes. And, many people bail because they keep trying to live a fantasy that doesn’t match up with reality. In other words, the territory doesn’t match the map they were given in childhood. Relating well then becomes an art, a master skill, to really see relationship as a path to our own wholeness and freedom.

    Relationship is what we are all designed for. It’s who we are. And marriage, if we have the proper view and tools, is an alchemist journey catapulting and demanding us to become all that we are.

     But remember, we must say yes to growth and have a willingness to learn how to face all that comes up within the confines of marriage, monogamy and long-term partnership. And, once we do, we’re on our way to marriage empowerment and fulfillment.

 ( Khoo Ding Yong)

 

Syria

When we talk about Syria, no doubt the word of WAR might appear in our mind. Syria is a smaller country with have almost the exact population as Australia (22.5 million to our 23 million) which borders Turkey, Iraq, Jordan, Israel and Lebanon (Sharwood.A , 2016).

    Civil war is the current crisis that happening in Syria. The war happen between the government and the public. Which began with anti-government protests before escalating into a full-scale civil war. Soldiers are fight for government sides who support Bashar al-Assad, the president of Syria, and the other side are a group of fighters who don’t want the president to be in power anymore. They known as Rebels, who fights against the government's army and also the President Assad (Mercy Cops, 2017).

According to BBC news (2017) state that more than six years the war in Syria has gone and there were reported 470,000 people has claimed lost their life. The crowded cities of Syria has been destroying by the bombings and horrific human rights violations are widespread. There are also basic necessities like food and medical care are sparse. 

All of us might curious about of how did it all start? What is the main causes and why it could be. Regarding to BBC news (2017) as it mention before it began with anti-government. There were 15 schoolchildren writing anti-government graffiti on a wall and reportedly tortured. The local people decide to protest the children and the trouble began in years 2011. 

The protests were just wanted for the release of the children, democracy and greater freedom for people in the country but on 18 March 2011, the government responded angrily and 4 of the protesters were opened fire by the army. The following day, they shot at mourners at the victims' funerals, killing another person. The public were shocked and angry at what had happened and soon the unrest spread to other parts of the country. It made the protesters extremely angry and in July 2012 the violence in Syria had become widespread and it was the state of the civil war (Manfreda.P, 2017).              (Loke Yi Ling)

Causes of the civil war in Syria is Uprising Turns Violent. Pro-democracy protests erupted in March 2011 in the southern city of Deraa after the arrest and torture of some teenagers who painted revolutionary slogans on a school wall. After security forces opened fire on demonstrators, killing several, more took to the streets. According to BBC news, the unrest triggered nationwide protests demanding President Assad's resignation. The government's use of force to crush the dissent merely hardened the protesters' resolve. By July 2011, hundreds of thousands were taking to the streets across the country. Opposition supporters eventually began to take up arms, first to defend themselves and later to expel security forces from their local areas.

Besides that, another causes of the civil war in Syria is Descent into the War. According to BBC news Violence escalated and the country descended into civil war as rebel brigades were formed to battle government forces for control of cities, towns and the countryside. Fighting reached the capital Damascus and second city of Aleppo in 2012. By June 2013, the UN said 90,000 people had been killed in the conflict. By August 2015, that figure had climbed to 250,000, according to activists and the UN. The conflict is now more than just a battle between those for or against Mr Assad. It has acquired sectarian overtones, pitching the country's Sunni majority against the president's Shia Alewife sect, and drawn in regional and world powers. The rise of the jihadist group Islamic State (IS) has added a further dimension.

Furthermore, Chemical Weapons is also one of the causes in Syria civil war. Hundreds of people were killed in August 2013 after rockets filled with the nerve agent sarin were fired at several suburbs of Damascus. According to BBC news, Western powers said it could only have been carried out by Syria's government, but the government blamed rebel forces. Facing the prospect of US military intervention, President Assad agreed to the complete removal and destruction of Syria's chemical weapons arsenal. The operation was completed the following year, but the Organisation for the Prohibition of Chemical Weapons (OPCW) has continued to document the use of toxic chemicals in the conflict. Investigators found chlorine was used "systematically and repeatedly" in deadly attacks on rebel-held areas between April and July 2014. IS has also been accused of using homemade chemical weapons, including sulphur mustard. The OPCW said the blister agent was used in an attack on the northern town of Marea in August 2015 that killed a baby.      (Hew Yong Kang)

It is far easier to start a war than stop it. Especially conflict has lasted for years and years. But if the issue can happen, there is always a way to solve it. There is some history of conflict between government and rebels having civil war but had finalized a deal to end the war such as Columbia. For Syria civil war problem, we can try to imitate what had been done at Columbia to achieve “World Peace” ideology. How Columbia stop the 52 years of hostilities? They achieve some of these points:

Make peace to everyone when you can.

Son of former president of Columbia Simón Gaviria Muñoz said that Columbia was achieved peace “In bits and pieces”. Columbia had tried to making peace between multiple factions for more than 30 years only can form the Columbia today. Civil war can’t be end by one day, but it needs everybody work for it.

Same target.

The leader of the multiple factions must had the same objective, “Peace”. If one of the factions want the power and ignore the innocent life, it is hard to achieve peace. For example, the Columbia rebels founder, Manuel Marulanda. He led the rebel group to fight against the government until the days of his dead. He never want to achieve any peace in his whole life. After he dead, the Alfonse Cano took over the rebel group and he wish to have peace in his country, so that he make peace to the government in the rest of his life until he got bomb raid. The following leader follow his spirit, make peace with the government until the Columbia end the civil war.

Incentive.

Soon Syria will realize that they can’t hold this position for long term, the longer that they hold this tragedy event, the more Syria people will die. The rebel group and government should not accept the help from other country to harm their own country. The foreign country providing resource for the parties of Syria is because they can earn a lot of money if there is a war happen and they only care about their own benefit. Syria’s government and the rebel group should fight for their country not for the foreigner. In order to stop the war, the government can maybe giving out some incentive for rebel group and negotiate with them such as giving out some seats on Congress. This can make a win win situation (Sibylla Brodzinsky, 2016)

    For conclusion, I can’t comment that Islam is extreme on their thinking, the rebel group member maybe is just getting brainwashing by their leader and they already lost their mind, they believe all their action is allow by Allah but it actually not, they are just used by their leader and their leader just collusion with the other country to maximize their benefit. I wish peace can come to Syria as soon as possible, if not they will be more citizen getting killed, raped and kidnaped.  (Khoo Ding Yong)

 

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