Married life is not like what we see in the Bollywood movies. When you are engaged you imagine about all the stuff you’d with your partner. Married life is not about only rainbows and butterflies, it is about compromise and understanding each other and it is definitely not a bed of roses. Things are, not how they seem to be. So now I going to talk about Expectation vs Reality on an issue of marriage.
(Hew Yong Kang)
Expectation about marriage life. We expect that our marriage life is
going to be exciting and will go on long and exotic vacations. We will stay
romantic as long as we can and keep the fire burning. He will brings me flowers
on the perfect time, talk sweetly to me, he will brings me to travel around the
world. She will cooks me a wonderful dinner, make compliment in me and
tolerance to me.
When expectation meet Reality. As
imaginations don’t have any limits, we will always though that we are going to
enjoy the rosy days with our spouse our lover until the end of our day. Few
years after marriage, they would having conflict and it will shake the things
up. U will no more patient in everything. You might busy in work and have no
more time to always stick together and loss patient to talk sweetly. Then you
will have kids in your life events, the kids will absorb every ounce of energy
for a while (Dennis Rainey, 2017).
Expectation of having kids will surely make your marriage better.
Generally we will desires to have little human being comes into our life and
brings joy to us. Some of us also might thinking being a father or mother will
changes a person to be more responsible.
When expectation meet Reality. When
the little human being comes into your life, your marriage is no longer about
each other. Both of you should spend more time on carrying and education the
little one. You may not able to spend time on personal event, you have start
making sacrifices you’ve never done before and take responsibility on it. Child
will not guarantee to make your marriage better you shouldn’t expect children to
improve your marriage (Sophie Harris, 2017).
Expectation
of your spouse love you and also your family.
We will treat each other family and love them as our own. We will always be
supportive and respective to every members. As I love you and i will also love
your family.
When
expectation meet Reality. According to Iqrak Khadim, (2016) stated that
normally your partner will not bother anymore and not really of how your spouse
feels now after few years of marriage. However, only your own parents are your
parents. You are not supportive or protective as previous do, no matter how
your spouse’s siblings are not siblings as your own u cannot feel the same for
your parents in law as well as you feel for your own parents. ( Loke Yi Ling)
Marriage is a blessed and happy
thing that will happen in most of people life, we work hard and operate it well
to keep our marriage stable even though that is a lot of conflict and
differences between expectation and reality, but marriage is work. A work that
need to build together within two people.
It requires skill, a powerful
context, embodiment and our rational thinking mind. It requires what we call
“relational awareness and literacy.” A real relationship includes all of us,
all shades, all colors, the dark, and the light. It’s happy sometimes and it’s
sad sometimes. And, many people bail because they keep trying to live a fantasy
that doesn’t match up with reality. In other words, the territory doesn’t match
the map they were given in childhood. Relating well then becomes an art, a
master skill, to really see relationship as a path to our own wholeness and
freedom.
Relationship is what we are all
designed for. It’s who we are. And marriage, if we have the proper view and
tools, is an alchemist journey catapulting and demanding us to become all that
we are.
But remember, we must say yes to
growth and have a willingness to learn how to face all that comes up within the
confines of marriage, monogamy and long-term partnership. And, once we do,
we’re on our way to marriage empowerment and fulfillment.
( Khoo Ding Yong)
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